Life… We’re All Just Making It Up As We Go Along

You know, as I get on with the day to day business that is my life, I’m realising more and more that for most of the time we are all making up our lives as we go along which to a recovering control freak like myself, comes as a great relief.

Yes, that’s right, a recovering control freak.

Anyone who knows me can attest to the fact that I love to be in control, even though that I knew intellectually that the notion of control is but only an illusion.

Feeling in control has made me feel safe and secure with the world around me and the upside of this feeling is that I consider myself a very organised and punctual person.

The downside to always wanting to be in control is that I would almost always get highly stressed out when situations don’t go according to the pre-determined plan that I have in my own head.

I’d get so stressed it would at times paralyse me.

I really loathe this feeling of being out of control but I didn’t really know how I could rectify this, a pattern that has been part of my life for as long as I can remember.

The realisation that we’re all making our lives up as we go along eliminates the need for me to compare my life with the life of others around me and therefore disengage myself from this need to be in control all the time.

Yes, I know that some people have their lives together more than others and I also know that we’re all unique in our own abilities, our history and the way we look at the world around us, but deep down we all want the same things, such as love, respect, validation, acknowledgement, recognition and happiness

When I look at life in this way I realise deep down we are all in the same boat.

Right now I’m working on creating some sort of balance between my need to have everything in my life catalogued and in its place and at the same time, being totally spontaneous.

Quite a challenge when it think about it but not an impossible thing for me to achieve.

I reckon there’s a song in this…


Corey 🙂


  1. I have never thought of you as a control freak , just someone trying to get stuff done . I have realised that some method is required to reach goals but that getting close to a self imposed goal is better than being a long way from the finish line . Flexibility beats disappointment , it’s a long journey ( hopefully ) and beating ourselves up from allowing rigidity in our expectations is simply of no use in that journey , it’s just allows us to dwell in dark places that we don’t need to be in . You continue to entertain and inspire others to be creative and these qualities can’t be measured in dollars . Onwards and upwards and avoid dark places where possible. Cheers J

  2. Thanks Jeff,

    With every day that passes I’m slowly letting go of my need to control what happens in my life and the associated attachments that come with the territory.

    It certainly frees you up your mind to focus on other things and the energy which was used up in worry and stress can be used for more productive and creative activities.

    Like getting together with you and write songs on a Monday night 🙂

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